What is it like when planning weddings with your spouse?I’ve been working with the Regalo Design team planning weddings for 5 years now. In that time, I have worked with Sarah and Damon on countless Saturdays and helped them with the daunting task of pulling off wedding after wedding. Recently I started working in the office on the day-to-day. I’m now an associate planner on the team and I not only see how they work together in the stress of the wedding day, but also in the planning process.
So, I wondered what is it like working with your spouse? You don’t see it too often, and you definitely don’t see it in the wedding business. I decided to ask them a few questions to see if they really do enjoy working together.
Here are the answers that the dynamic duo who own Regalo Design gave me to share with you:
1. When working weddings together, do you ever think of/compare it to your special day?
Damon: Sarah may do this more than I do. During the actual day, all I’m thinking is “get this done!” Generally during the dances is when I sit back and reflect. But at that point I’m just thinking about what my dances with my baby girls will look like. We’ve got three weddings coming at some point in the next 25 – 30 years. That’s three dances with my girls. Just saying this out loud makes my eyes sweat a bit.
At the end of the night there are many times where we are talking as we’re headed home about how the wedding went. It’s never a comparison though. We had an amazing day. As perfect as it gets. That’s what we want for each of our brides. If she walks away as happy as we were, it was a success.
Sarah: Our wedding day was the inspiration behind starting Regalo Design. It was a perfect, personalized reflection of our love and our story. It is the reason why my love for weddings over corporate events started to blossom. However, I don’t reflect upon our wedding day while planning or implementing another wedding as that was our special day and not our clients. They have their own visions, thoughts and inspiration. My job is to give them their wedding day and not ours.
Working together as husband and wife is very special. There are moments in the day, after everything is set up and ready to go, where I look at Damon and without saying a word, we know how special it is that we get to do what we get to do every day together. When I see a bride and her dad right before they walk down the aisle, I can’t help but think about my dad. Those are the fun and exciting moments that make me so thankful for our perfect day.
2. What are some of the challenges of working with your spouse? How do you overcome those challenges?
Damon: The biggest issue and bonus for Sarah and I is communication. In any working relationship, you must be able to communicate well. It’s an issue when we don’t do it well and because we know what the other is thinking 99% of the time, we don’t even have to talk. But those times that we don’t it’s much more personal because we’re married. There are some days where it flows perfectly and others where the apologies are abundant. But I do know that us working together has improved our communication both in work and at home.
Sarah: The challenge is knowing when to turn work off and just be together as a family. When you build a business with your spouse, you get to experience the good and the bad. We celebrate in the joys, achievements, blessings and growing of the business. But, it isn’t always good. We are there for each other in the nights where you don’t know how you are going to pay the bills. Constantly navigating through clients’ needs, good and bad. We watch each other have anxiety over what all needs to get done. In the end, through great communication, you become closer and stronger as a couple and as individuals. When you own it, it is hard to turn it off and rest.
3. Do you think there is something different or special about working weddings rather than working in an office or another profession together?
Damon: There’s no question. Emotions are so high on wedding days… and in the days leading up to them. I sit with Sarah in the evenings after meetings and can feel whatever emotion the client had that night. She carries it with her. So, in that sense, we never leave the office. The same goes for the wedding day. We both deal with that emotion together. The good news is we work through it together and having the knowledge of how your wife processes things makes it much easier to talk through.
Sarah: Yes! Because we are married and do weddings, it is very special that we get to be with couples who are just about to start the journey of marriage. I wouldn’t want to be doing this with anyone else. Damon knows how I carry the weight of each client. He is able to remind me why I do what I do and encourages me to be a better business women each day. More than anything, he challenges me to value myself in every interaction with any client or vendor. Weddings are an amazing moment in life and I get to experience it with my husband and for that, I am forever grateful.
4. What advantages are there to working weddings with your spouse?
Damon: I generally know what she is thinking before she says anything. And she knows when I need a nap! What I love is how we deal with the clients together. We get to bounce ideas back and forth. We problem solve for other people together. And we have both the male and female perspectives. That’s a huge advantage!
Sarah: Well… we are with each other a lot so we get to talk through things together. Damon knows everything about me. He knows what I need when I am stressed or frustrated, and he also knows how to keep me focused. On the flip side, we don’t have to talk much on the day of the event. We put our heads down and get it done! This is actually a benefit as we both understand what needs to get done and we do it quickly.
5. What do you love most about your spouse when working together?
Damon: The time that I get to spend with Sarah is priceless. If we weren’t working together we’d see each other very rarely. What people don’t see are our Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays. Those are 16 hour days with floral prep, loading the van, final phone calls to triple check everything, rehearsals, and wedding days. It’s a non-stop pressure cooker. If one thing goes wrong that could be THE thing that ruins the day for the client. So being together and spending that time together means neither of us is ever alone in the stress. And the conversations on those late evenings are super entertaining… if only to us!
Sarah: I love the time we get to spend together. However, the thing I love the best is that Damon can make me smile and laugh in the times when I need it the most. The late-night flower production, the vendor who is making it all about them and the long list of things that need to get done. I love that he is with me to provide my much-needed comic relief.
I have seen a lot of Sarah and Damon in the last five years. And I can tell you that they truly care about each person that they get to serve. And they do it really well.
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