You’ve just gotten engaged and the wedding planning has begun. It’s a wonderful time where you get to show off your ring, invite your friends to be bridesmaids, and go Pinterest crazy coming up with ideas. There’s one thing you generally don’t plan for… because you don’t see it coming. But rest assured with every wedding there comes a surprise, and these are just a few that we’ve seen in the 300+ weddings that we’ve been a part of…
- The overly suggestive family member or friend – Everyone has that one person in their life that has ALL the suggestions. No detail of your wedding day is too small for them to have an opinion. While you love to share some of the plans for your wedding day, this person generally asks questions that you don’t have an answer to yet, and can cause a great deal of anxiety in the process. Be aware, be prepared, and don’t be afraid to let them know that it’s your wedding, not theirs! Our suggested response? “You know, these are all great ideas! I’m so thankful for all of your input. I’m sure we’ll be able to put some of it to use, and we’ll let you know if we need anything else. Right now we’re just enjoying making this perfect for the two of us!” If that doesn’t work, you can always tell them the wrong date and apologize later!
- The “we are paying for it” parents – This one is a little trickier. We don’t see this often, but when it happens it puts the bride and groom in a really difficult spot. Mom and dad are footing the bill, but they are suggesting or demanding things that you don’t want. And when you balk at the idea they remind you who is paying. The best thing to do here is talk about it. There is an underlying reason that you don’t want what they’re suggesting. There is also an underlying reason that they’re suggesting it. So come clean about the feelings that you both have. Money is a touchy subject and comes with a lot of emotion. Don’t be afraid to be honest, and make sure that both of you respect the other. A simple conversation can go a long way in making sure there are no hard feelings on the wedding day and beyond.
- The drunk guest – If you’ve ever been to a wedding, chances are you’ve seen this person. They see an open bar and by the end of the night the bartender knows their name and has their drink ready as soon as they see them headed their way. They hit the dance floor and become the life of the party… until they’re not anymore. This generally ends with tears, injuries, or a vomit covered dance floor. Plan ahead for this. Have a serious conversation with your bartender about limits for guests. Let them know that you trust them to make good decisions about who to serve and how much to serve them. They can begin adding less alcohol to the drinks, or making the pour a little smaller. You probably have an idea of the person who may become a problem before it even starts. It never hurts to let them know before the night gets started that the bar has permission to cut them off at any point. This can help prevent an ugly scene when it starts happening.
- The unforeseen – No matter how much you plan there will always be something that happens that you didn’t plan for. Weather, people, vendors or sickness, we’ve seen it all. The most important thing for you to do is surround yourself with people that you trust to shield you from any surprises. Our main focus as a planner is to make sure our brides never know about the unexpected. Have a “plan b” for the weather. Have conversations with your people. Make sure you have experienced vendors who know how to handle any situation. Most importantly, remind yourself that there are things you can’t control, and that’s ok. At the end of the day, you’ll be married, and that should be your focus. Enjoy every moment, even the unexpected ones. Those end up being the best stories anyway!
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