We hope you’re enjoying our series on the steps that you should be taking as you’re planning your wedding! In case you’ve missed them, we started one year out and have been going through the monthly process of to-dos. You can see those by clicking the links below.11 – 12 Months Out 8 – 10 Months Out
In this post, we’ll cover those items that you should be planning when you’re 6 – 7 months away from your wedding day. By this point you should have the majority of your vendors booked. As we’ve mentioned in the past venues, photographers, and caterers book their calendars a good year in advance. Those are the items that you need to get squared away as quickly as possible. So if you haven’t already done your research and gotten those pieces in place, make sure to get started on that as soon as possible.
Reserve your rehearsal dinner space. The rehearsal dinner is generally paid for by the groom and his family. This is the biggest expense that is traditionally the responsibility of the groom. Making the guest list for the rehearsal dinner should be the responsibility of the bride and the groom, however. Just like the wedding. Many times the guest list includes the bridal party and their significant others. Others choose to invite extended family as well. Whatever the case, get your guest count for this as quickly as you can, start researching facilities, restaurants and other locations that allow you to invite those that you want to attend, and provide the amenities that you need.
Check on your wedding invitations. If you’ve made or ordered custom invitations now is a good time to check with the printer and see what the status is. Once your invitations are received (unless you’re using a full-service provider) you will still have to fold, stuff, address, stamp, return address, and mail all of your invitations. This is a very time consuming process. We suggest having an invitation party when it’s time to get these in the mail. Get some wine, have some friends over, and get to work. You’d be surprised at the level of stress that can ensue when these arrive in the mail with all of the pieces separated. Depending upon your invitation, each one can take up to 5 minutes to get prepared. If you’re sending out 300 invitations, that can be quite a time consumer.
Select and order the cake. This is one of the best parts about the planning process… for the groom. It’s one of the few times that you’ll tell your husband-to-be that you need him to come along and he’ll agree without hesitation. “Try cake? For Free? I’m in!” There are so many combinations and designs out there, you want to make sure that you try three to four bakers and see who you enjoy the most. Make sure that they do this for a living. Make sure that they will flavor the cake to your liking. Make sure that the cake is moist. And make sure that they are comfortable with the design that you have in mind. If you want everything perfectly smooth like the picture you saw in Martha Stewart Weddings, make sure they can do it. Want a smooth finish with butter-cream instead of fondant? That’s a real art. There are a few that can do it well, so make sure you take pictures with you, and express your desires on the outset.
Send your guest list to the host of your showers. When planning showers it’s important for you to communicate with those that have agreed to host them for you. Keep in mind that they’re doing this at their expense, and your demands should be light and easy. But, if there are people that you specifically want to attend, make sure that you express that early in the process. And if there are those that you wouldn’t feel comfortable attending a lingerie shower, make sure they know that as well. There’s nothing much worse than having the father-of-the-groom show up when he’s not supposed to!
Purchase your wedding shoes and start your fittings. One of our favorite tips is to put your wedding shoes on around the house and wear them multiple times before the wedding day. Find out all of the little places where they’re going to rub and be prepared. You’re going to be doing a lot of walking on that day for pictures, so know in advance where these are going to give you problems. Mark those spots and have band-aids on hand to assist with the discomfort on the day of. Also, get in that dress and start figuring out what alterations you’re going to need done. Get them done as early as possible so you can quickly fix any errors made by the seamstress. We’ve seen brides that have had to order and entirely new dress due to poor alteration work. It’s a disaster for sure, but one that can be remedied as long as you allow enough time!
Schedule your hair and make-up artists. If you’re planning to have someone else do your hair and makeup on your wedding day, now is a good time to get them on the books. Make sure that they will come to you (if that’s what you want them to do) or schedule a block of time for their studio on the day of. Want to bring along your bridal party? Make sure they have the staff in place to take care of everyone that is coming. Book in advance and check in a couple of weeks before as a friendly reminder that the most important hair appointment you’ve ever made is coming up!
Choose your ceremony and reception music. What could possibly be so hard about this, right? If there is one item that we are generally waiting on with our clients, this is the one. It doesn’t seem like a difficult decision, but there are so many options out there. Whether you’re going classical and choosing the songs you’ve heard a million times, or a little more modern and using today’s top 40, go ahead and make those decisions now. Here are the songs you should specifically be thinking about…
- Prelude music (30 minutes)
- Entrance of the grandparents
- Entrance of the parents
- Entrance of the bridal party
- Entrance of the bride (that’s you!)
- Unity candle and/or communion
For your reception make sure you select:
- Entrance of the bridal party
- Entrance of the bride and groom
- First dance
- Father/Daughter dance
- Mother/Son dance
- Bouquet and garter toss
See? There’s a lot to think about when it comes to music. Don’t rush these decisions last minute. Music can really set the tone of your wedding day.
Well, that’s it for this portion of the planning process. We’ll have more to come in a few days. Until then, happy planning and let us know how we can help!
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